How to Find Your Partner's G-Spot

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We've put together a simple step-by-step guide to finding your partner's G-spot and exploring the potential of G-spot orgasm! You might also be interested in our How To Find Your Own G-Spot, or our brief descriptions and photos of the best positions for G-spot play.

1. Turn on.

   The G-spot is easiest to feel (and stimulating it feels the best) when you’re already aroused, so be sure to take some time to really turn your partner on before giving your partner any internal attention. Do what your partner likes best—give her a full-body massage, use your hand or a vibrator to give clitoral stimulation, perform cunnilingus, whatever will get your partner’s blood flowing to the genitals.

2. Tune in.

   When your partner is ready to be stimulated internally (how do you know? All you have to do is ask!), begin by making sure you’re in a position where you can comfortably insert a finger into the vagina with your palm facing up (for extra glide, dab some lube on your fingers first). The G-spot is located toward the front wall of the vagina, so think about curling your fingers toward her belly once inside your partner’s body. You won’t need to feel very deeply into the vagina to reach it—the spot lies close to the vaginal opening, only about an inch or two in.

3. That lovin’ feeling.

   When you’re ready to move your finger, rock your fingertip against the G-spot and toward the vagina’s front wall, like you’re making a beckoning “come hither” motion on the spot. Because it doesn’t have the same kind of nerve ending concentration as the clitoris or labia, the G-spot responds more to pressure than a light, tickling touch, so check in with your partner to see how hard she’d like you to press. Many love to experience G-spot and clitoral stimulation at the same time, so you can maintain clit contact (with whatever feels most comfortable—the thumb of the same hand that’s inserted, your other hand, a toy, your tongue) while you do your “come hithers.”

4. Rock around the clock.

   You'll know when you hit the G-spot by the distinctive sensation it creates. Remember, you aren't feeling for something on the vaginal wall, the urethral sponge is behind it, so you'll need to press. The texture of the G-spot feels somewhat bumpy or crinkly; noticeably different than the smooth walls of the vagina. Press firmly and stroke your fingers towards your palm (move them in a "come hither" way). Try various degrees of pressure and a range of motions.

5. Try a toy.

   Because G-spots respond so well to pressure, consider stimulating her with a hard toy like the Archer Wand or the Hot Rod. She might also respond to vibration, so have a G-spot vibrator on hand, such as the Pixie Plus, the Orchid, or the silicone Galaxy G. If you want to explore a variety of toys, you'll have a ball trying all the toys in the G-Spot Jingle.

6. Communicate.

   Remember, communication is as much a part of G-spot play as technique! Ask your partner how your finger feels; if she’d like it higher or more to one side. It’s really important to remember that finding and stimulating a G-spot shouldn’t be the main objective of your sex play. Being too intent on reaching a sexual “goal”—G-spot orgasms, multiple orgasms, ejaculation, etc.—puts pressure on your partner to respond a certain way and takes focus off of the big picture of pleasure, which is to simply give and receive.